Relationships

Although we have an innate need to form relationships with other human beings, our ability to do so is often compromised by unhelpful feelings or responses. However, it is important to realise that these are learned patterns of behavior. They might develop as a result of past experiences, such as a bad relationship that leaves you feeling jealous and distrustful in all future relationships, or as the result of family upbringing – it’s remarkable how often people relive their parents’ experience in their adult lives.

Self hypnosis and hypnotherapy can help you to break these unhelpful patterns because it deals directly with the part of the mind that keeps them in place. The subconscious mind controls all of these deep-seated, emotional patterns of behavior, activating them time after time, even if we know, consciously and rationally, that they’re not helping us.

The advanced hypnotherapy techniques and hypnotic suggestions we use in our self hypnosis CD's and MP3 downloads are designed to update the subconscious mind, teaching it new and better ways to respond, and building up positive expectations for successful and healthy relationships.

Of course, the people we are trying to form relationships with also have their own deep-seated, emotional patterns of behavior which may or may not be helping them too! Whilst you cannot change how other people feel and react, you may find that when you improve your own responses to build healthier relationships, other people will improve their responses too.

In the end, the most important relationship you have is with yourself, since the way you treat yourself influences the way other people treat you. Self hypnosis is a powerful and effective way to improve this most crucial of relationships.

Any time you interact with another human being, you’re in a relationship, and our range of products reflects this wide definition. We have hypnotherapy programs to help you with your family relationships, as well self hypnosis audios that can help you to improve the quality of your relationships generally, whether that’s with friends, acquaintances or even work colleagues.

Of course, most people think of romantic relationships when they hear the term, and we have a number of programs specifically designed to help in this area. Again, it’s worth pointing out that the most important relationship you have is with yourself, since improved confidence and a sense of self-worth will significantly increase your chances of finding a partner.

Every relationship will have its ups and downs. This is perfectly normal. Arguments and disagreements, or the lack of them, have no bearing on the health of a relationship. We probably all know couples who are in rock-solid relationships who seem to do nothing but bicker and argue with each other!

Of more significance is the way you treat your partner on a day to day basis. Psychologist John Gottman identified four behaviors that can spell serious trouble for any relationship – treating your partner with contempt; personal criticism rather than specific complaint (“you’re a lazy so-in-so” instead of “you haven’t taken the bins out today”); acting defensively; and withdrawing from each other to lead parallel lives.

Gottman also identified seven general principles that characterise healthy relationships. These are intimate familiarity with each other’s world; nurturing fondness and admiration; turning towards each other for support; a willingness to be influenced by each other; a willingness to solve the solvable problems; incorporating each other’s goals and dreams; creating shared meaning. As a rule of thumb, Gottman also suggested that there should be five positive interactions for every negative interaction if the relationship is to be a healthy one.

Human beings are social animals. This is a fundamental and inescapable fact of our evolution and we all have a basic, instinctive need to connect with other people. Of course, some people are more gregarious than others. Nevertheless, the basic need to form relationships is always present, to a greater or lesser degree.

If this need is not met, then there is a real risk of serious psychological and even physical damage. Loneliness, or a lack of social connection, has been linked to increased rates of depression and anxiety, as well as heart disease, sleep problems, digestive problems and weight control issues. Relationships are crucially important, because they affect the quality of your life as a whole.

The good news is that you already know how to form good relationships. In fact, you were born knowing this. Any obstacles you encounter are just patterns of behavior developed in response to circumstances – and all patterns of behavior can be changed. Hypnotherapy is the ideal way to develop more helpful responses, since it deals directly with the part of the mind that controls them.

When any relationship ends it can be extremely painful, even if you were the one who made the decision to end it. At these times, it’s only natural that you might want to obliterate the pain or somehow forget that the relationship ever happened. However, it’s important to understand that feelings of loss and grief are a normal part of the healing process.

That said, if a past relationship is preventing you from moving on, then self hypnosis can certainly help you to get back on track. Our “Get Over A Relationship” self hypnosis CD / MP3 download is designed to help you let go of negative feelings and to feel more open to possibility in the future.

Everybody experiences jealous thoughts from time to time. It’s a natural human emotion and to some extent, shows that you care. However, sustained or excessive jealousy can be extremely toxic, causing untold damage and hurt in a relationship.

The reasons for jealousy are deep-seated, often arising from insecurity or a lack of self-esteem. It can also be caused by a faulty pattern-match to a previous relationship. If your previous partner was unfaithful to you, for instance, you may feel jealousy towards your current partner.

The subconscious, emotional nature of jealousy means that it is amenable to self hypnosis. Our “Overcome Jealousy” self hypnosis CD / MP3 download has been produced to help you cope with these difficult and destructive feelings, giving you the mental tools and more open mindset to enjoy your relationship in a calmer and more positive way.

This is a classic double-bind and one that is experienced by many people. It can seem like a no-win situation when you’re stuck in it, since the failure to start a new relationship only increases your lack of confidence. There’s often an element of performance-anxiety involved as well. If you feel that every single encounter has to be the perfect date and the start of a wonderful new relationship, then you’re likely to be stressed and anxious, making it far less likely that you will click with your prospective partner.

The good news is that these are all emotional and psychological reactions and as such, open to change through self hypnosis. We have a range of CD's and downloads that can help you to feel more relaxed and confident about finding a new relationship, including “Attract Love” and “Dating Confidence”.

We recommend you complement these choices with our self hypnosis for confidence and self-esteem audio programs, particularly if your confidence issues are deep rooted.

The parent-child relationship is critically important in everybody’s life, yet it can be extremely problematic. It’s been said before, but children really don’t come with an instruction manual, and there are times when being a parent can be extremely frustrating.

Our “Positive Parenting” self hypnosis CD / MP3 download is designed to help you overcome your frustrations, as well as boosting your motivation and giving you confidence in your parental decision making. Again, improvements in your relationship with yourself can bring improvements in your relationship with your children.

There is no definitive answer to this question, since every person who listens to our self hypnosis audio programs will have their own individual needs and goals. Relationships are an ongoing process, not a fixed destination, so change and improvement will be ongoing too.

Our self hypnosis CD's and MP3 downloads take account of this, and are designed to develop positive expectations and draw attention to these changes as they happen. Whatever differences you notice in the quality of your relationships will be meaningful to you as an individual, whenever they occur.

Everybody is different, with different needs and expectations, and nowhere is this more apparent than in the field of human relationships. As such, it would be impossible to provide a “one size fits all” approach that will work infallibly for everyone every single time.

Whilst we cannot guarantee that our self hypnosis CD's and MP3 downloads will work, what we can say is that hypnotherapy can be a remarkably effective way to make lasting changes at a deep, subconscious level. We believe that repeated listening to our hypnotherapy recordings can significantly improve your ability to form healthy and fulfilling relationships.