Although the individual reasons for sexual dysfunction are infinitely complex and varied, the common factor is usually stress and anxiety of some kind. Stress interferes with your ability to enjoy a healthy sex life, since it literally turns off your sex drive. Chronic stress releases hormones that suppress anything which is not necessary for immediate survival, including your libido.
Of course, as is usually the way with these things, this can become a vicious circle, since sexual dysfunction itself becomes a form of stress. The most effective way to break this cycle is to remove the stress at source. This means communicating with the subconscious mind, since it is this part of the mind which controls our instinctive and emotional reactions.
Self hypnosis is an extremely powerful way of doing this, since it creates a more receptive state of mind in which your subconscious is open to positive messages for change. Self hypnosis is also a good way of building up positive expectations for healthy and fulfilling sexual performance, which are then much more likely to be realized in reality.
The advanced hypnotherapy techniques we use in our hypnotherapy CD's and MP3 downloads are designed to remove subconscious pressures, boost your confidence and help you feel more relaxed and at ease about sex. It’s also worth pointing out that self hypnosis is inherently relaxing, which in itself will go a long way towards eliminating stress and anxiety.
The mind and body are intimately connected. Sex is certainly a physical act – perhaps the ultimate physical act! – but it is one that is inextricably bound up with our psychology. All too often, guilt, shame, stress and anxiety can get in the way of your ability to enjoy a healthy and fulfilling sex life.
In addition to this, sex is prone to the effects of performance anxiety. Even if you feel perfectly comfortable with your partner in every other sense, you may feel under pressure in the bedroom. The stress this causes actively interferes with your ability to enjoy a satisfying sexual experience, which in turn causes more stress, creating a vicious circle.
People also have all sorts of expectations, ideas, feelings and emotions about sex, formed by their experiences, their upbringing and their personal and social values. Some of these will be positive, some will be negative, but they will all be deep-seated and largely subconscious.
As such, although there may be physical or physiological reasons for sexual dysfunction, a psychological approach such as hypnotherapy, which addresses the subconscious roots of a sexual problem, has the best possible chance of making lasting improvements and change.
Although most sexual dysfunctions can be traced to anxiety of some form or another, the most common problems are probably premature ejaculation and erectile dysfunction. Most men will experience one or other of these problems at some point in their lives, usually as a result of specific unfavorable circumstances such as work stress or fatigue, or perhaps as a result of nerves when starting a new relationship. These problems tend to go away by themselves when circumstances change.
However, like most other sexual problems, premature ejaculation and erectile dysfunction can become locked into a self-perpetuating pattern. Every time they occur, they increase the anxiety that causes them in the first place. Self hypnosis can help to resolve these issues by calming anxiety at an subconscious level.
Please see our “Premature Ejaculation” and “Erectile Dysfunction” pages for further details.
As noted above, long term stress and anxiety can suppress the libido, since it’s not a function that’s necessary for short-term survival. In addition, mental and emotional pressures can have a detrimental effect. It’s a double bind, since a healthy and satisfying sex life is one of the best antidotes to stress.
Our self hypnosis download “Increase Your Sex Drive” uses hypnotherapy techniques and suggestions that are designed to boost confidence and enjoyment of one’s own sexuality, as well as eliminating the subconscious stresses which may be reducing the desire for sex.
We also have an “Ultimate Orgasm” self hypnosis program, which is designed to help women achieve greater sexual pleasure. This can sometimes be frustratingly elusive for women, whether through a lack of confidence, insecurity, excessive self-consciousness or similar anxieties.
Of course, a one-to-one session with a good hypnotherapist will provide a level of personalisation that we cannot match in our hypnotherapy recordings. The hypnotherapist will work with you as an individual, taking account of your personal circumstances, goals and resources.
Having said that, a pre-recorded hypnosis session can be extremely effective, especially for sexual dysfunction which you may not feel comfortable discussing face to face. These recordings can be listened to in complete privacy, and you can listen to them as often as you like to really reinforce their positive effects.
There is no definite answer to this question, since the pace of change will be different for everyone and will very much depend on your individual circumstances. Putting pressure on yourself to make a certain amount of change in a certain amount of time only adds to the stress which is an underlying cause of sexual dysfunction. Change will happen in such a way and at such a time that is right for you.
Whilst there are certain underlying patterns that are broadly similar for all sexual dysfunction problems, in the end, people are far too individual for any single approach to work for all people all of the time. Hypnosis is not a miracle cure, so we cannot guarantee that our hypnotherapy CD's and downloads will work for absolutely everybody who listens to them.
Instead, we will point out that our self hypnosis audio programs have been developed by our team of professional hypnotherapists who have a great deal of experience helping people to overcome problems just like yours. The advanced hypnotherapy techniques we use work with your mind’s natural ability to learn and change, so we believe that with repeated listening to our self hypnosis CD's and downloads you can give yourself the best chance to make positive changes for a healthier and more fulfilling sex life.
Back in 2009 I had radiation treatments for prostate cancer, which left me with a very small erection. I’m now back to how it was before. It’s also less sensitive and obviously I’m delighted. Feel free to use this as a testimonial so that others can benefit, because I know how bad it can be to suffer from ED.
Tony - Oxford, UK
Like millions of other men I’ve suffered from premature ejaculation. I put this down to a psychological factor which is why I think your hypnosis therapy download worked for me. It has made such an amazing difference to my life. I now feel so much more confident in myself, sexually.
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